Let's just say that you are good enough to have snagged a date with that hot girl you've been fantasying about without my guidance.

Congratulations, playa.

And as the enormity of what you have just pulled off begins to dawn on you, you start to wonder if you have the emotional and intellectual maturity to keep her interest for four hours over an exquisite Caribbean meal.

Kudos for even thinking about that aspect of the art of communication because it is the single most important aspect that can destroy your prospects before you have a chance to reveal your more sterling attributes.

It's good that you're feeling the fear playa because it can be a painful experience to be trying to scale a fully erected barrier placed between yourself and your potential bed mate.

Painful.

I'll be the first to admit men find it difficult to make small talk and prolong a meaningful conversation with someone you have just met - no matter how nice of an ass she may have. But the truth of the matter is communication is the life blood of any relationship - long or short term - and whether you're inclined to be the strong and silent type, whoever your with will want to feel that they can relate to you and are comfortable talking with or listening to you.

We all have different styles of communicating and it just requires a receptive mind to adapt to the other persons approach but still maintaining the integrity of who you are. If you follow that rule then you are about to become very popular but before you go out with your new found knowledge of self let me warn you about the effect of negativity on your first make or break date.

At the risk of stating the obvious, I shouldn't need to tell you that there is some taboo subjects that you should stay away from at all cost. But for a sense of completeness and if I'm to presume you are a newbie, here is a brief list of topics you would do well to steer clear of because they could prove counter productive to you making a good impression on the gorgeous woman.

1. Politics

   A definite evening ruining topic. Politics will without a doubt bring out some strong personal opinions that may not correspond with that of your dates. Don't embarrass yourself or her by trying to find out who she voted for. That is personal and just too damn presumptuous at this stage. Chill out and get to know the person your sharing a meal or a drink with on a social level.

2. Religion

   Hell no!

   Maybe I should have put this at the top of the list because communication experts all over the world agree this is one topic to avoid at all costs on a first date. Spiritual views are highly personal aspects of ourselves which you could so easily ridicule or besmirch with the most innocent of comments. Remember even within the same beliefs or faiths there are different points of view. This is a mine field which you would do well to steer clear of.

3. Former Girlfriends

   What are you thinking dawg?

   You may think that you are in touch with your self and your baring your soul but you simply come across as insecure at best and manipulative at worst. The last thing your date wants to hear about are your past exploits with bitchy or even angelic ex's that you had to dump or they had to part ways with you. If you want the first date to become a second, try not to make her jealous or insecure and keep that part of your history under lock and key, kapische!

4. Money

   Not everyone feels comfortable talking about money. I learned the hard way that its best to let your position in life be realized and not stated. It has more impact that way if you ask me. If you let your love of money take over the conversation it just smacks of materialistic, selfish streak that very few women find attractive. The subject of money gets boring very quickly and sounds very much like boasting in even less time so if you don't want her to remember a pressing engagement at the entrée, ditch it.

5. Her Weight/Body

   Because your thinking it doesn't mean it should be said. You can keep it real at stage three of your conquest but for now it's crass and disrespectful. You want your date to be comfortable around you not feeling embarrassed and self conscious. This is not how you make a good first impression. If you ended up on a blind date and realized you didn't find her weight or a physical attribute attractive focus on the other great aspects of the individual and be man enough to at least enjoy the rest of the date. Physically beautiful women want to feel that there is more to them than what you see and that of course is the case. Highlight the more intangible aspects of he personality instead of endless references to her, great breasts or long legs. She will thank you for it by seeing you again and that is a step in the right direction.

6. Sex

   You may think its cute but bombarding a women with constant sexual references and innuendos makes it seem like you're desperate and needy. Not charming at all, believe me. Sex is so important to a relationship and she knows that as well as you do. And like all things relationship orientated it will eventually come to that but for your date to think that is the only motive for meeting up, she is going to feel used and misunderstood. Not a smart move if you want to be in her good graces.