Nature, biological Imperative, call it what you will dawg but the simply fact is, its child's play for a man to be turned on by a woman. All she has to do is vaguely indicate that she may be willing to have sex with you and your third leg will respond to the command without prompting. For men, however, turning a woman on is a far more complex process. You must consider everything, from the music you play to the clothes you wear, from the words you say to the food you serve. Only then will she sink into your arms with relief because there is actually a man that exists who understands her mysterious female needs, and only then is she going to be prepared for you to stroke the kitty.

Dress with Intent

Keep it simple, nothing elaborate because the effect you are going for is: what you see is what you get. Anything that smacks of considered preparation - although you are preparing but cannot make it seem as if you are - will go down like a hooker in heels. Your best option is a crisp, well cut Sean John top or if your not going designer a light colour cotton shirt and casual trousers - ironed of course. Wear shoes, not trainers unless they are more casual than sporty with subdued colours also. Don't even think about a tie dawg because this ain't the 1950's. There is a time for that OG look but at this time not yet. If you're not sure about the colours that compliment you at a later date I'm going to hook you up with some relevant information to solve that problem so keep coming back for more.

The Smell of Success

For women, cleanliness is the most important factor so splashing Undeniable on your funky ass will not be enough to attract her. Nor will unsightly stubble, dandruff fetid nests under your arms or an uncharted jungle in your pants. Women have a sense of smell as finely tuned as a bat's ears, so shower with products that build up a subtle hint of manly fragrance. Don't even think you can get away with that cheap supermarket shit to tantalize her olfactory senses because it will only give the wrong impression - cheap and doesn't care about his own well being - perception is everything playa. And shave properly, so you don't feel like sandpaper block if you get past first base for a kiss. If you have a beard, keep it neat and barbered.

Be Interesting

The conversation you treat her to over dinner is essential for putting her in the right mood. Being interesting does not just happen it requires preparation. If things start getting dull, a good tactic given women's appreciation for astrology and anything supernatural is to read her palm or perform some subtle magic tricks.

Another approach is getting to know your date enough that you know her birthday. If you can subtly drop what her birthstone is, she will definitely be impressed.

January - Garnet, February - amethyst, March - aquamarine, April - diamond, May - emerald, June - pearl, July - ruby, August - peridot, September - sapphire, October - opal, November - topaz, December - turquoise.

You're off to a flying start and one more thing to add to that is your current affairs knowledge. No woman wants to be dinning or sharing a conversation with some caveman who hasn't seen the light of day for the last five years. Don't overdo it but be familiar with the female world - novelists, artist, musicians and politicians.

Set the Mood

As I keep saying, perception is everything. Memorable moments can be created and don't have to be lucky breaks. And like anything a little preparation goes a long way. Subtle lighting - aromatic candles are an ideal solution - as they cast a flattering glow on the skin and make your room infinitely more appealing. Or if your more tech orientated a dimmer in your light switch and hued bulb would have you just as prepared.

Have the Right Props

There are certain things that a practised seducer must have casually displayed in his home to reassure her that she is with a man of taste and refinement.

A musical instrument

Nothing excites the senses to the frequency of romance than music. If you have a guitar, saxophone or piano tastefully placed where it can be seen and commented on. And what would even be better if you can drop a few bars reasonably well, then hey..........

Flowers

Bunches of flowers looks woosy, some artistic presentations will carry it off better.

Back to Your Roots

An African fetish mask, carvings from the Caribbean, art work from India - all giving off this vibe of a well travelled and interesting personality - more on that in another article.

Toilet

Clean and fragrant. Need I say more.

Bedroom

Pristine white linen sheets all the way baby. Egyptian cotton ironed and crisp. Don't be fooled by Hollywood's obsession with Silk sheets, there for losers.

Songs to get you laid

Selecting your choice of music for an evening of romance can be tricky task. Too obviously romantic and it comes across as slushy but too many sexual undertones and you might as well drop your draws there and then. I've navigated this mind field successfully many times with my favourite middle of the road R&B tunes to great effect.

• Luther Vandross
• Marvin Gaye
• Brian McKnight
• Donell Jones
• Joe
• India Ire
• Mary J Blige

Serve the Right Drinks

She is a goddess so to seduce her you're going to need more than a trip down to your local. As an aperitif, create a cocktail for her or offer a dry white wine such as Frascati, alongside snacks that are easy to eat - pitted olives, morichino cherries, cheese or cashew nuts. During dinner, try something like an Asti Spumante. After dinner produce a descent brandy like Courvoisier and playa make sure you pour it into proper brandy glasses.

Aphrodisiac

Don't try this without knowing her culinary preferences but it one of the surest ways of making a great first impression. Keep it three courses, keep it light and if you time it that she actually witnesses you producing the last twenty minutes of a dish then you have just rocketed yourself to the top of her most wanted list. If you can't cook learn - I'll be providing you with some great recipes in the months to come - but in the meantime Waitrose, Marks and Spencer and Tesco have a fantastic gourmet range just make sure you stash the packets so she doesn't see them.

Ideally you'll whip up three delicious courses of aphrodisiac tastes which will increase the blood flow to the relevant regions. This does have basis in that certain foods- asparagus, fish, pine nuts, honey, strawberries - contain vitamins or zinc which can increase testosterone. Just don't make it too obvious.